Monday, September 28, 2009

More pictures











Sunday with the Grandkids












Look at that precious face.




Christina and Kady bug




Faith coloring too.







Marianne coloring pictures







Kadence








Kady bug and Faith








Christina came over with the girls, and we had Sunday lunch. The girls were great, we had a great time. It was nice to Christina, I haven't seen her since Chuck got back, he had to work today, so maybe we will see him next time. We made him a plate though. We had homemade spaghetti, garlic bread, salad, and as Faith put it honey cantaloupe (honey dew melon), she said she never had it before it was great. When we got done the girls colored and we played with Kadence. Seeing Kadence makes me miss all my grand kids. Being a grandmother is the greatest joy on earth, here are some pictures.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

I Love Sunday's

Today Rob preached a good sermon, and when we got back I decided to make some homemade pizza. The boys Rob and I just spend some time together, the pizza was great, but the company was even better. I think that is what I miss the most about the kids being all over the place. They don't get to come over and spend Sunday's with us. I think when they were young that was one of my dreams, that they would live close by and we would enjoy each others company.

So today was just a relaxing day, and I remembered all the times we used to come home after church, and I would make Sunday lunch, and we as a family would just enjoy each others company. To many more Sunday lunches to come.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Text Message

This week was an unsual week. I got a text from someone I don't even know, and it was quite hostile, I mean she doesn't even know me. I have to say I let it hurt my feelings, unitl my children rallied around me, and told me how crazy it was, so I let it go. We have a blended family, and I am so proud of it. This whole thing could have fallen apart early on, but it didn't, it was hard work, everyone had their own personality, and I loved it. With each person having their own personalities that didn't make life easy, and there were some crazy fights. Somehow we gained from it and learned from each other, and I would like to think I learned from each one of my children, in more ways I have been blessed to have had them all in my life.

A word of advice to the young: When you have problem with someone, "Don't text them". As an Administrative Assistant I have learned e-mails and texts, don't provide tones, you can take an inocent e-mail and add your own tone to it, and it can spiral out of control. It is best to do it in person, or over the phone, have a personal conversation. That being said it is never best to come out swinging, especially with someone you don't even know.

My son has a baby boy by a girl he is not yet married to, and she has a child from a previous marriage. She is with my son in Texas, I sent my grandson, Christmas presents, and I recently, after asking my son what size he wore, sent him some clothes, they don't have alot of money and I thought it would be much appreciated--it was not.

Apparently it caused a fight between them (not my intention). He told me she was mad that I didn't send presents to her little girl also, so I told him, if she was upset, she shouldn't take it out on you, she should call me. She didn't--she texted me, and it was not a nice text message--at all. The problem: she thinks I need to send presents for both of children, she says that her daughter is as much as my son Chris' as Taylor (my grandson) is. She said I should send presents to both of them or not any at all (young drama).

The problem is, she don't know me, I have never met her, by her texting in the way she did, it is hard for me to want to get to know her. I do know my son, and I love him, and I don't want to cause problems for him. My view is they are not married yet, when they do get married then I would do my best to recieve them into the family, even the little girl. How can you make demands from someone you haven't even talked to yet. I have never had any conversations from this girl before, and never met her. If you are trying to make a good impression, that was not it.

I understand more ways then she thinks. We had a blended family, my mother and father (after we were married) took Christopher and Christina in as their grandkids, they each got what the others got. Rob's mom and dad did the same, but because Christopher and Christina didn't get things from the other side, Rob's parents would give a little more to Christina and Christopher. I did have kids whose feeling did get hurt from time to time, watching some get more than the others, Briana's and Garrett's other grandparents always provided them lots of presents. As they grew up however, they realized both sides didn't have to do anything, and were doing the best to show them love, and they were loved.

Briana's husband Kori, had a blended family, and we have other friends in the same boat. They never got things from the other side. Kori never got presents from his step dad's side. So you could see were I emphasize with all it. The problem with all it is you don't demand things from people, in my experience that never works out.

My children got really upset over this, because they love their mother, and they know me. They know that I would never do anything to intentionally be mean, or hurtful, and I try to be fair about everything. I have to say Briana can be quite the cougar when her mother is wronged. Willie wanted to lash out to, but I told him no, it would do nothing to change this girl's mind, and Chris had to live with her, we all love Chris very much, and want him to be happy.

What did I learn from this, sometimes your best is not good enough for some people, and that's okay.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Missing Everyone

Well, I have been back two days, and I miss everyone. It was such a great trip I enjoyed everyone. It is so hard living so far from everyone and I really just love being around my family. I love everything about them, their laughs, their smiles, their tears, and most of all their hearts. My family has the great capability to love harder, and deeper than any other family. It is a rare quality to have a group of people who support you, but most of all accept you for who you are, no matter what.....They get me. Don't get me wrong I loved coming home, but my home can be anywhere, as long as the ones I love are there too.

Monday, September 7, 2009

The Feast

We had a feast tonight, enchilada's, Mom made beef, and I made chicken. I made homemade salsa, and she made guacamole. We had fruit salad, and Mom made rice and beans. Ole', I also made ooey gooey cake, lemon yum. It was a whole lot of fun. Before that we went to the mall, I bought Jackson these great shoes, he loves shoes, he put them on and then ran all over, he was so proud of his shoes. Briana, Kori, Garrett, Jax, and I got to run around together having fun, we all took turns holding him. Oh wait I think Garrett had the most turns, he was great he watched will we shopped till we drop. What a great day, I am exhausted.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Still in Cali

Still in California. Got to spend time with Garrett and my Mom. We went to the movies to see the new Sandra Bullock movie. It is was really good, funny, we all laughed and had a really good time. My brother came by and chatted a bit. Tomorrow we will be having a get together, feast, food, good times. I have to say I really love spending time with my Mom, I really missed her, and I just really love being around her. Her smile lights my world. Rob has been busy laying my kitchen floors while I have been gone. I have really missed Garrett, and it has been great that he has been off to spend some time with me. It doesn't matter what we do, we just enjoy each others company...well, I enjoy time with him, can't speak for him. I will try and get some pictures up I have been so busy I haven't really been taking any. But I promise I will. Off to bed. Goodnight everyone.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

California

I flew into California to see my Mom, my favorite person, and to spend some time with her. Was a bumpy ride to start. Had to wait 5 hours before my plane came in to fly out to Hawaii. I was so tired, that I sleep most of the day. It was great, it is so wonderful coming home, and looking at all the old pictures of the family hanging everywhere. Last night Briana flew in with Kori, and my grandson Jack, he is so big now, it has been a year since I have seen him last. He is so much fun to be around, it reminds me of when I was teaching and doing daycare, I love this age. Briana looks great very pregnant but very beautiful. Pregnancy agrees with her. Garrett's birthday was Friday, and we celebrated, what fun, and then we made plans for what we will eat on Monday night, when my cousin, friends and family come over to eat. Should be a lot of fun. My heart is bubbling over. I told Rob I wouldn't shop, he just laughed, I already have lied, I have been shopping. California has so many great places to shop.